As we shuffle into our last days before  Mother's Day, some of us are not within the crowds at the mall. Or at the card wall waiting to pick out the perfect card. For some of us, this is one of the harder days, the days where our grief comes back. They day we remember how much we miss our moms.

But Mother's Day doesn't have to be a day without Mom. It can be a day you remember Mom even if she is shining down on us from Heaven. A day to honor her and the special relationship you shared. As I am coming up on my 6th Mother's Day without my Mom, here is what I do to help ease the grief.

Buy a Card
It might sound strange, but buying a card to remember your Mom helps. Pick out what you would buy your Mom. The right words that you might not be able to say to her but are thinking. Write to your mom every Mother's Day. Say what you are feeling that Mother's Day and just how much you miss her.

Do Something She Loved
If she loved gardening, go pick up a pot of flowers to plant. If she loved her Mother's Day brunch, invite the gang over and celebrate. If she had a favorite recipe, make it for everyone that is coming over. Share with everyone just how special it is. These will help you remember every year just how special

Pay It Forward with a Gift
Every year, I give a special donation in honor of Mother's Day. It's a charity my mom supported and it's something I can give back in honor of my mom. Even if you can't give her a gift physically, knowing that your gift can potentially help others is a gift she would love.

Honor All the Moms in Your Life
There are many women in your life that have been there for you. Whether it be as a mother figure, aunt or friends in your life (we are at that age, right?!). Reach out to them and wish all the lovely women in your life a Happy Mother's Day. To remind them just how special their role is. There are mother's all around you that you can honor, take that opportunity.


Mother's Day can be a hard time when dealing with the loss of your mother and every year after. I have dealt with it every year and I hope these help you honor your mother every year.

What do you do to honor your mother on Mother's Day?

Mother's Day,Missing a Mom

It never gets easier. Easier to deal with? Yes.

It never hurts less when people ask you what your plans are for mother's day and you have to respond, "My mother passed away." And then the conversation becomes a little weird.

But I know I have healed when the conversations can turn positive again and when I don't have to hide out crying all day. I know even though I can't see my mother's resting place, she's in my heart.

And I still buy my mom a gift. Even if she isn't here, I purchase a donation to the American Cancer Society for the money that would have been spent on her. She loved this charity in honor of my grandmother. So I always like to do that for her.

Also, every year I look back on my posts from the previous year. This is why I love blogging. I can see how I felt last year and how I have grown. And I want to share with you my post from last year.

The past few weeks the emails, commercials and marketing tools for Mother's Day have been on and on. 

Four years later and it isn't any easier to hear or see, "Shower your mom with love." Or "Make sure to let your mom know how much she means to you this Mother's day."  Delete, mute, turn the corner.

I wouldn't say I'm bitter but I also wouldn't say I'm not. In a way I am bitter. Bitter that showering my mom with love means leaving flowers on her grave. Bitter that I can't call my mom on the phone or send her the flowers to show her how much she means to me. I just have to whisper it into the wind. 

But I'm also not bitter of the fact that I still have amazing other women in my life. Look at these women I get to send mother's day cards to. Women who are there for me and support me. 

And let's not forget I get to be a cat mommy to this cutie. Yes, I said that. 

You can read the full post here.

And if you are asking what you can do for someone that celebrates mother's day without a Mom or Father's DAy without a day...the answer is just be there. Be there for them whether it's a phone call, card or a quick text just to make them smile about something. Or picking up the phone when they call because you know they might be having a rough day. 

It's the little things that mean the most.

And I know someday I will have children of my own to celebrate this special day with where I will be able to tell them all about their wonderful grandma in Heaven.